Networking For Introverts - Real Tips for Real People Who Hate Schmoozing


Ugh, networking. Sucks, right? Here's a common networking conversation I have with my clients:

Jolene Jobseeker: "It feels like I've been looking for a job forever. My resume is polished and I've submitted it to at least a hundred different online job postings. Crickets. What am I doing wrong?"

Coach Coverletter: "What is your networking strategy?"

Jolene Jobseeker: *Crickets*

Oh, Jolene, if you only knew how much I used to hate networking. In fact, I refused to do it. Not the traditional version, anyway. And the traditional version goes something like this: 

  • Cocktail Mixer, super awkward, "Sorry, what was that? It's too loud!", anxiety attack

  • Chamber of Commerce, bad coffee, "What's that strange smell?", business card shuffle

  • Job Fair, bad coffee, hand sanitizer dispenser is empty, handshake hell

  • Baseball Game, I hate baseball, I can't believe he put ketchup on his Chicago dog, "How is this networking again?" night out

Jolene is an awesome person. I know that she'll work hard, learn anything, go the extra mile, and then go one more. But I know that because I've had the privilege of getting to know her. Her resume, even though it looks strong, doesn't introduce employers to her "awesome". 

When I suggest networking to her, so people can get to know that awesomeness, she recoils. "I hate networking. It scares me. I'm an introvert. I don't like big groups or awkward meetings with strangers. I'd rather email a thousand resumes than go to a single Chamber of Cocktail Job Fair Game."

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Service Changes Plus Fun Facts About Brad

Los Angeles sunset in my backyard - October 26 2018

Los Angeles sunset in my backyard - October 26 2018

Greetings From Sunny Southern California!

As we rapidly approach the end of 2018, I wanted to take this opportunity to thank you all for another amazing year. I extend my heartfelt gratitude for being given the opportunity to collaborate with each of you on your exciting life changes. We worked hard and had some good laughs along the way!

I also want to share a few updates with all clients past and present, as well as those considering working with me in the future:

  • I’ve recently changed my service offerings which you will see reflected on the Services page. The biggest change is that I no longer offer the Full-Service Coaching-Consulting package. Whereas I used to offer a package of 4 sessions with a semi-structured framework, the only packages I now offer are for Resume, Cover Letter, and LinkedIn reviews. In place of the Full-Service package I will shift focus to a Pay-Per-Session approach. My full menu of services will still be offered just as before, but with the simplicity of pay-as-you-go. This approach is more responsive to individual needs. Simply put, not everybody needs 4 sessions or the package structure.

  • As some of you know who have recently contacted me, I have very limited availability for the duration of 2018. I will do my best to schedule existing clients as quickly as possible. New consultation requests will be added to a wait list that I will begin contacting the week of January 7th. The first quarter of 2019 is shaping up to be a very busy coaching season, as that wait list is growing quickly. If you’d like to be scheduled for a complimentary consultation I encourage you to email me ASAP and request your name be added to the wait list.

  • As a career coach-consultant I have the pleasure of hearing the fascinating stories of so many people from so many different backgrounds. I truly love it! And because your time is valuable, I try not to talk too much about myself on our calls… unless, of course, I feel one of my personal stories might be helpful. So I thought it would be fun to share a few fun facts that you might not know about me:

    • Did you know my partner and I raise birds? We have a large coop that currently houses 5 chickens, 3 pigeons, 3 quail, and 2 ducks. The best part is, most of them are rescues and they provide fresh eggs! I grew up on a small hobby farm in Michigan and I feel so fortunate to continue that tradition at our Los Angeles home. Interestingly enough, the city of Los Angeles has a long history of farming and to this day it’s not unusual to find homeowners in L.A. who raise poultry or even have horses. Our neighbor raises pigs and sheep, yet we’re only 15-minutes from the skyscrapers of downtown.

    • Clearly I love animals, but did you know I used to own a pet sitting and dog walking service? I built the business from the ground up and at one point had a team of 7 dog walkers. When I moved from Michigan I sold the business to one of my employees and it’s still in business to this day.

    • Speaking of my job history, did you know I worked at Burger King? It’s been 20 years but that experience shaped my work ethic and is still fondly remembered. You can read more about that story in my latest Psychology Today article.

Here are a few more of my recent Psychology Today articles you might find helpful:

Are You Making These Big Job Search Mistakes?

Applying For Jobs Online? You Might Be Wasting Your Time

12 Tips For Landing A Job At A Company You Admire

10 Ways To Uncover The Hidden Job Market

Is College Worth It?

Photo: Diliff/Wikimedia Commons

Photo: Diliff/Wikimedia Commons

Unemployment, underemployment, degree inflation, labor shortage, student loan debt... I cover a lot of ground in my new article, but it's just the tip of the iceberg on such an important topic.

I use the latest data and labor market trends to take up the tough question: Should I go to college?

Read the article here: Does It Pay To Go To College? - Psychology Today

18 Ways To Get Jobs and Training Without Incurring Tons of Debt

Stumped on how to make a career change without amassing tens of thousands in student loan debt? Need to be earning an income while learning a skill? Click to read my latest article at Psychology Today that gives 18 ideas for moving your career forward without being set back.

10 Ways To Uncover The Hidden Job Market - Psychology Today

My new article on Psychology Today is about tapping into creative strategies for finding a new job... especially if you hate traditional networking and are sick of wasting hours in the online job boards.

10 Ways To Uncover The Hidden Job Market via Psychology Today

Creating A Success Toolkit For The New Year

From my latest article at

After my high school graduation I attended a couple semesters at a culinary arts school. It was a strange little satellite campus of a larger university, and it ultimately wasn’t a good fit. However, it planted the seed of an idea that I've now revisited over 15 years later. During orientation at culinary school each student was given a rigid blue plastic box—about the size of a 3-ring binder—filled with blank pages like a scrapbook. It was designed to be a professional development portfolio where we could store our resume, certificates of achievement, and anything else that would highlight our career accomplishments. In theory, it was a great concept to encourage us to develop a career mindset. But ultimately its high dork factor—the expectation that we would carry the blue box into job interviews—relegated mine to the thrift store donation bin.

Now that I’m in the position of helping people navigate their career exploration, I’ve tweaked the concept of the blue box into a comprehensive career journal. Valuable at every stage in one’s career, it’s a personalized notebook or binder where we store and explore all things career and personal-professional development. In this article I've included all of the general framework components of the career journal. While one might add folders for resumes and certificates of achievement, the primary goal is to conduct an in-depth exploration and inventory of a comprehensive range of career topics. Click here to read the career toolkit creation tips on my blog at Psychology Today.

10 Best Career Advice Websites (Psychology Today)

Source: Pixabay

Source: Pixabay

The endless stream of career advice can feel overwhelming, frustrating, and even misleading. So much online advice is outdated, boring, or too general to be helpful for any one person’s unique situation. Here is my updated 2015 list of favorite career websites, posted on my latest blog at Psychology Today. (link opens in a new window)

Volunteering: "Good For the World, Good For You" (HuffPost)

I've been included in this great article and infographic about volunteering in today's Huffington Post article, Good for the World, Good for You - This Infographic Shows How Volunteering Can Help You Find and Get Your Dream Job