Not getting responses to your job applications? Read my latest article at Psychology Today for tips on getting your foot in the door of those admirable and highly competitive companies.
Struggling with big decisions? You may not be making the space necessary for those answers to arrive.
Every day I work with people who are in the throes of making difficult decisions like changing careers or relocating.
They come to me for help thinking through their options and working through their overwhelm. I guide them through a process of introspection, information gathering, and taking action.
But even with all the information at our fingertips and all the support by our side, making a difficult decision is still making a difficult decision. When the moment comes to push the button—to say yes or no—we still look for more information. Just a little more "something" that will help us decide if we're doing the right thing.
That's the moment when I just might say, "Stop everything."
You have all the information you need. You've done your due diligence. All that's left is to silence the mind and clear a space for the answer to arise.
A puzzle box can contain every single piece you need to create a beautiful picture, but those pieces can only be fitted together once your space is cleared.
As a writer I regularly have days when the right word isn't coming to me. When a storyline hits a brick wall. Lately I've noticed that the less I try to force the answers I'm seeking, the more likely they are to appear. In fact, this happens so often now that one would think I'd become accustomed to it, but I'm amazed every single time.
When we're faced with big decisions we must do the work of seeking out information, exploring our options, and enlisting our supporters. But we must also create a space for the answers to arrive. A cluttered and racing mind is too full and too busy to let them in.
The answers you need will rise to greet the stillness that you create.
From the title of this article you might guess that I'm about to share some of those tried-and-true job interview tips that you've probably heard before, like: send out a thank-you letter to the employer after your interview. While that is a good tip, I'm going to suggest a new concept that will boost your interviewing confidence.
When I was starting out as a psychotherapist intern—let's just say that was "a few" years back—my supervisor required me to conduct a process recording after every client session. I kind of hated them (the process recordings, that is). But, looking back, they were tremendously helpful and now I suggest the same technique to my job seeking clients. Read the rest in my new article at Psychology Today.
Okay, time to back up our resume strategy with some sobering statistics:
"Less than five minutes—that is how much time a resume is reviewed before it is decided whether a job candidate proceeds to the next step in the hiring process"
That's according to a survey done by the Society For Human Resource Management. Check out the rest of their resume statistics here.
Need some help making every second and every word count? With some of the most affordable rates of any experienced resume/career experts in the country, I will work with you by phone and email to make your resume perfect. Contact me to set up a free phone consultation.
I just helped a client land a 6-figure job and this is what she had to say:
A collaborative approach that not only crafts great documents but teaches clients the building blocks for making these important documents great.
Over the past year I've seen a particular increase in requests for help in the following areas:
- Custom resume and cover letter review & strategy
- LinkedIn development
- Professional narrative/identity development & strategy (branding & messaging)
After years of looking at resumes and cover letters from all imaginable career levels and industries——seeing which land interviews and which don't——I STRONGLY believe that clients should be writing their own materials in their own voice. I've seen too many expensive "professionally" written resumes that lack personality and are full of generic keywords that make the resume seem more robotic than eye-catching. There are certainly many great resume writers out there who take the time to get to know their clients and create effective documents. However, I believe in teaching my clients the building blocks of what makes resumes and cover letters great so that they can continuously revise their documents throughout their professional career. All of my resume, cover letter, and LinkedIn reviews include this much needed teaching component.
To respond to this need I've restructured my service line to include new and affordable career strategy packages. Clients with whom I've already conducted these services are reporting very high satisfaction with having a strategy partner to customize their materials and create their 'story'. I'll continue offering my full-service career coaching-consulting package as I have for the past six years, but now clients have the additional option of choosing highly personalized services focusing on their application materials.
Below are my 3 career coaching-consulting packages. Please contact me if you're interested in scheduling a consultation call to discuss rates and how these services can help boost your career. All of my services are available throughout the U.S. by phone and email.
PACKAGE #1: FULL-SERVICE CAREER COACHING-CONSULTING provides highly personalized coaching and consulting services that may include:
- Skills/strengths/interests inventory
- Career discovery and clarification
- Career path planning and strategy
- Goal setting, motivation and accountability
- Resume/cover letter/LinkedIn review & strategy
- Job interview preparation
- Creating a professional narrative/identity (professional branding & messaging)
- Job search strategy
- Career transitions and leveraging your prior experience
- Possibilities brainstorming
Full-Service Career Coaching-Consulting gives clients access to all of the above coaching-consulting services, 4 phone calls, and access to private client portal with unlimited email/journal access. Additional/ongoing calls available at a per-session rate.
PACKAGE #2: Resume, Cover Letter, & LinkedIn Review/Strategy gives your materials a thorough review and your professional identity a major boost. This is not a resume writing service. Instead, clients send one current version of their resume, a cover letter sample, their LinkedIn profile, and (if available) examples of jobs they're interested in. We then schedule an initial consultation call to discuss your strengths, skills, and goals. I independently review the materials for improvement, email you a mark-up of the materials, and meet with you again by phone (up to 60 minutes) to discuss edits and strategy. A final review email is conducted as needed. The result is a strategic professional identity and narrative that is cohesive throughout your customized materials. Turnaround time is 5-7 days for these services. Additional follow up calls available at a per-session rate.
PACKAGE #3: A La Carte Resume Review/Strategy like above, this service includes an initial consultation call, one resume review, one strategy call (up to 50 minutes), emailed document mark-up, and a final review email as needed. Turnaround time is 5-7 days for these services. Additional follow up calls available at a per-session rate.
My new article on Psychology Today is about tapping into creative strategies for finding a new job... especially if you hate traditional networking and are sick of wasting hours in the online job boards.
I hope this note finds all of my clients, friends, and visitors doing well during this busy post-election/holiday season. For many of us, the recent (and upcoming) weeks are ones that have and will test our patience, our bonds, and our hopes for the future.
I recently wrote a post on Psychology Today about post-election grieving. It stirred a mix of emotions, but eventually I had to turn off the commenting feature because the inflammatory responses were distracting readers from the positive intent of the article. You can read it here: Post-Election Grief and Resilience
Then last week I came across the stirring quote below by author Toni Morrison and it felt like the perfect companion to my article. And today, as I take a break from hanging a few antique paintings I picked up recently at estate sales, I wanted to share it with you.
With her message of art, inspiration, and action I wish you all a peaceful and productive week. I wish the same as you come together with loved ones this holiday season. I wish the same as you navigate this uncharted political landscape. And I wish the same as you step into a new year that is full of possibilities.
To you and yours, a peaceful, productive, and inspired year ahead!
"This is precisely the time when artists go to work. There is no time for despair, no place for self-pity, no need for silence, no room for fear. We speak, we write, we do language. That is how civilizations heal.
I know the world is bruised and bleeding, and though it is important not to ignore its pain, it is also critical to refuse to succumb to its malevolence. Like failure, chaos contains information that can lead to knowledge — even wisdom. Like art."
Read the rest of the article at Brain Pickings
Oh you betcha! It's another damn resume article but this time it's written by me and this time it's fun. In it I incorporate timeless phrases like "junk in the trunk" and "your resume is full of duty".
Resume writing sucks, am I right? An Internet full of conflicting advice and terrible templates makes me pretty snarly. In my job I see a lot of resumes, good and bad, so I see which ones are landing people interviews. That’s its job. So let’s talk about how we can get our resume to do its job…without landing us an anxiety attack.
Resume Golden Rule: Understand the true function of a resume. It’s not an autobiography. It’s not a chronology of duties you perform every day. And, brace yourself, it’s kinda’ not about you! Zing! Pow! Mike drop! Check please!
Ready to find out what a resume is really about? In my article written for Psychology Today, I give tons of tips and resources that will totally transform your resume.
Occasionally I speak with clients who want to work at Google. In fact, a looong time ago, when Google was an emerging cool company to work for, I even applied with them (without success). We know these are highly competitive jobs and it can be difficult to get a foot in the door. I've chosen eight YouTube videos, full of tips from actual Google employees, to give your application and interview process a strategic edge.
In addition to watching these videos, the best thing you can do to prepare for a Google job or ANY job, is to learn everything you can about the company. Acquaint yourself with their website, their LinkedIn page, their social media accounts, their press releases, and how they are showing up in the news or industry publications. Don't not do this! Here's why:
- Companies will often publish tips for applying and interviewing with their company. It could get embarrassing if you don't know the basics before going in.
- Companies want candidates who really get them. Learn the company mission, their corporate culture, their strategic vision, their professional voice, their client, their product, etc. Your research will make you better versed in an interview and it will help you exude excitement. If you do this research and find yourself NOT excited, should you really be applying?
- Know the bottom line: The company has a problem and you're being invited to demonstrate how you can be part of the solution. So what is the company's problem? Are they growing rapidly and need to keep up with demand? Are they in a highly competitive sector and needing a visionary to help them stay on top of the game? Are they struggling financially? Did your predecessor quit the position and leave the company overwhelmed? If you can pinpoint their problem, you'll be able to demonstrate how you're their new problem solver. This is your chance to be the hero.
In the case of Google, there is fortunately a lot of information out there on how to get hired. There's also a lot of garbage. In these videos you'll hear directly from current and former employees about which hiring hearsay is fact vs. urban legend. You will learn which competencies they are looking for and how to demonstrate them. You'll hear sample interview questions and how to approach them. And you'll learn how to structure your resume so it stands out from the crowd.
If you still have questions after watching all these videos, just Google it!
After a very busy winter season that saw some clients wait-listed before coming on-board, I'm happy to announce I'm accepting new clients.
It seemed like a lot of people out there had big plans for 2016 and wanted coaching to help them along the way. Top off a full client roster with our being in the midst of house renovations, things got pretty crazy over here. With all the hammering and sawing going on there were days when the only quiet space for a coaching call was inside my car inside my garage. (If you're new here, we moved from Chicago to Los Angeles last year and have been renovating our house since February.) We have a few more projects pending—including lighting in my office—so for now my office is the kitchen table.
On top of feeling misplaced at home, I've made numerous trips to numerous doctors since November to figure out what was going on with my hearing. I had that Charlie-Brown's-teacher's–voice thing going on. So for all the times I said, "I'm sorry, can you repeat that?" please know that I really was listening and feeling very sorry. Six months and many uncomfortable tests later, I'm relieved to report that my hearing is fine. All tests show perfect hearing and I'm feeling much better. All that aside, I've been grateful for a beautiful and peaceful start to the new year.
And what an exciting first quarter it has been for so many of you! I've been incredibly proud of all my clients' hard work and successes. Together we've experienced exciting career transitions, hurdled motivational slumps, and perfected a bunch of tricky resumes. Can't wait to meet new folks and chart uncharted territories through the rest of 2016.
Who Moved My... ?
If you happened to stop by the site looking to download StoryLaunch!—my coaching companion ebook—it has been retired. Not like Rolling Stones retired, but truly done for. StoryLaunch! was my first foray into ebook writing and it was a little project I was very proud of. However, as my professional choose-your-own-adventure has taken me to new places and my voice/expertise/philosophy has grown, it was time to send the ostrich flying. Well, flapping anyway. Who remembers the ostrich from my How About Cake days?!?
Something Something-ish This Way Comes!
Last night I couldn't sleep. Too many ideas. As many of my coaching clients have heard me say time and again: "Write it down! Get the swirling thoughts out of your head so they don't keep you awake." So I'll be taking a spoonful of my own medicine. Nyquil! No, wait. Writing!
I don't have details to release yet, but there will be something. As I did with StoryLaunch!, I'll likely be releasing teasers on Facebook and here on the blog, so follow along if you're curious.
(Everything I Do) I Do It For You
No, not a Bryan Adams exposé. My next something will, of course, be career related. And I want it to be for you. So I'd like to know what you'd like to know. In the comments section or in an email [email@example.com], please feel welcome to share what you wish you know now that you might know then but won't know now until it's then. Ya know?
What career-life advice do you wish you'd heard when you were younger? What are your biggest career-life questions and concerns? Chances are, if you're wondering or struggling, so is somebody else. If you let me know then I can let them know.
That's the news from my kitchen table. After my office is spruced up and I'm feeling illuminated I will probably write to you next from... the kitchen table.
From my latest article at PsychologyToday.com
After my high school graduation I attended a couple semesters at a culinary arts school. It was a strange little satellite campus of a larger university, and it ultimately wasn’t a good fit. However, it planted the seed of an idea that I've now revisited over 15 years later. During orientation at culinary school each student was given a rigid blue plastic box—about the size of a 3-ring binder—filled with blank pages like a scrapbook. It was designed to be a professional development portfolio where we could store our resume, certificates of achievement, and anything else that would highlight our career accomplishments. In theory, it was a great concept to encourage us to develop a career mindset. But ultimately its high dork factor—the expectation that we would carry the blue box into job interviews—relegated mine to the thrift store donation bin.
Now that I’m in the position of helping people navigate their career exploration, I’ve tweaked the concept of the blue box into a comprehensive career journal. Valuable at every stage in one’s career, it’s a personalized notebook or binder where we store and explore all things career and personal-professional development. In this article I've included all of the general framework components of the career journal. While one might add folders for resumes and certificates of achievement, the primary goal is to conduct an in-depth exploration and inventory of a comprehensive range of career topics. Click here to read the career toolkit creation tips on my blog at Psychology Today.
The endless stream of career advice can feel overwhelming, frustrating, and even misleading. So much online advice is outdated, boring, or too general to be helpful for any one person’s unique situation. Here is my updated 2015 list of favorite career websites, posted on my latest blog at Psychology Today. (link opens in a new window)
As a career coach I’ve worked with many clients who have expressed interest in mental health related careers. I hear common motivators: they like working with people, they’re helpers by nature, they find psychology and human behavior interesting, and they want to be of service to the community.
Whenever a particular career interest arises, we explore it from all angles. Those intrinsic motivators are a big part of it, but we also examine the extrinsic realities: Are they aware of the education and licensure requirements? Do they have realistic salary expectations? Do they understand the realities of interning in a community mental health center? Or struggling to make a private practice thrive? Can they imagine the personal toll of constantly listening to people’s problems? Handling crisis situations?
To obtain a clear picture of any career option, I encourage my clients to research the field and talk with people working within it. With the latter exercise in mind, I embarked on my own homework assignment. In an effort to provide insight into a variety of mental health career experiences, I recently put out a call to action to the general public working in any mental health related job:
“Seeking experiences from a variety of mental health workers. Provide pros & cons and frank realities about pursuing education and careers in mental health related fields. Responses should be kept to a minimum and address the following: 1. Name, job title, and degree(s) 2. Describe of your job duties. 3. Describe one thing you find fulfilling about working in the industry. 4. What would you caution/urge prospective students to understand before embarking on a degree/career in your field?”
I received many responses—far more than I can include here—and have selected the following 23 responses for their completeness and succinctness. May this admittedly lengthy collection of career profiles help you or a loved one explore the opportunities and realities of a career in mental health.
Check out the 23 interviews on my Psychology Today blog, 23 Mental Health Professionals Interviewed About Their Jobs (opens in a new window).
Need help with a career decision? Contact me for a free phone consultation.
I've been included in this great article and infographic about volunteering in today's Huffington Post article, Good for the World, Good for You - This Infographic Shows How Volunteering Can Help You Find and Get Your Dream Job
So you're a great candidate with a great resume. You're getting interviews—maybe even second or third round interviews—but then it stops. Somebody else gets the job. Your inner critic chimes in and starts beating you up over what you potentially did wrong.
The good news is, your application materials are working. Your resume and cover letter are getting you in the door and that can be the biggest hurdle. Now it's time to fine tune your process.
An important part of our professional growth is taking stock of barriers or excuses that are holding us back. It can feel daunting when we determine that we're not moving forward in our career or launching our business idea because we can't find answers to our tough questions.
For example, what if you want to start a daycare business in your home but you don't know how much money you'll need to set things up? Or, let's say a recruiter contacts you on LinkedIn to hire you at a competitor of your current company—how do you know if it's a legit offer or a good company to work for? Perhaps you're already a pro in your field but you don't know how to market yourself on social media or create a YouTube video.
You talk to your family, friends, and coworkers, yet none of them have the answers. You're paralyzed to make a decision because you simply don't have enough information. So, what next?
A few intriguiging new companies have stepped in to solve your problems and you can access them right now.
The links below are online question & answer sites for professionals and entrepreneurs. Meaning, you suddenly have access to thousands of experts who've been in your shoes and can provide just the tidbit of advice you're looking for in a matter of days or even minutes. Sign up, pay for the service, and connect one-on-one with experts who can answer your specific questions- some on live video.*
The icing on the cake—if you like how these sites work, you can even apply to become a paid expert yourself.
24 Sessions (Get business advice via live video)
Clarity (Get advice from entrepreneurs)
Live Ninja (Teach and learn live online)
Huddlewoo (Another teach and learn video platform)
Quora (Community sourced Q&As)
*The author has no affiliation with these companies and receives no compensation of any kind for mentioning them.
For more career success resources, check out my article, 3 Excellent Career Advice Resources for Job Seekers
[This article was originally published by Brad Waters on Psychology Today at April 1, 2015.]
My latest post on Psychology Today is about the power of writing a letter—how taking that extra effort to show someone you care can do more than you know.
"One of the most endearing parts about receiving letters from my pen pals is that both of these long distance friends, unbeknownst to each other, use stickers. With glittery hearts, neon butterflies, and gold embossed sunflowers, each envelope is preciously adorned. They are jewels to me. When I receive them I’m reminded I’m rich..."
Read the rest of The Art and Heart of Writing a Letter at Psychology Today (opens in new window).
A Psychology Today article that I wrote two years ago, 10 Traits of Emotionally Resilient People, has reached nearly 100,000 visits. That numbers says to me that “resilience” is on our collective minds and we want to know how we can be better at bouncing back from adversity.
Can you relate to the 10 Traits in this article?
Ten years ago this month, Hara Estroff Marano, Editor-at-Large for Psychology Today, wrote in her article The Art of Resilience:
“At the heart of resilience is a belief in oneself—yet also a belief in something larger than oneself. Resilient people do not let adversity define them. They find resilience by moving towards a goal beyond themselves, transcending pain and grief by perceiving bad times as a temporary state of affairs… It’s possible to strengthen your inner self and your belief in yourself, to define yourself as capable and competent. It’s possible to fortify your psyche. It’s possible to develop a sense of mastery.”
So how do we fortify our psyche to ride the waves of adversity rather than being pulled under by the torrent? How is it that some people handle incredible amounts of stress while others quickly fall apart?
Those who master resilience tend to be skilled in preparing for emotional emergencies and adept at accepting what comes at them with flexibility rather than rigidity–times are tough but I know they will get better. The old metaphor applies: resilient people are like bamboo in a hurricane–they bend rather than break. Or, even if they feel like they’re broken for a time, there’s still a part of them deep inside that knows they won’t be broken forever. Here’s how they do it… CLICK HERE to read the 10 Traits at Psychology Today.
(original article updated May 18th, 2015)
This year for New Year's I collaborated with Textbooks.com to write the article A Life Coach’s Roadmap for Your New Year’s Resolutions. It's a “best-of-the-best” advice tip sheet that draws from my coaching techniques plus research-backed suggestions from some of today’s most respected psychologists (see reading list below). And the consensus is... it's not too late to start or restart your resolution(s)! The tips in the article can significantly boost your chances of succeeding with your goals by being prepared and being strategic.
Changeology: 5 Steps to Realizing Your Goals and Resolutions by John Norcross
Willpower, Rediscovering the Greatest Human Strength by Roy Baumeister
Changing for Good: A Revolutionary Six-Stage Program for Overcoming Bad Habits and Moving Your Life Positively Forward by Prochaska et. al.
Succeed: How We Can Reach Our Goals by Heidi Grant Halvorson
Switch: How to Change Things When Change Is Hard by Chip and Dan Heath
Are you someone who experiences cycles of high excitement and then flatlines with confusion and exhaustion? Perhaps you’re interested in many things – you’ve had a dozen college majors – but in the end you still don’t know what to do with your life and the struggle has left you feeling frustrated, numb, and ready to give up.
You’ve probably heard that all you need to do is find your one true passion and you’ll be happy forever.
If it were really that easy, wouldn’t we all be rich and happy by now? This is where many coaches, career counselors, and self-help books have failed us in a big way. Their marketing is creating false expectations, spreading misinformation about human nature, and confusing the hell out of us. We’re lead to believe that other people are finding success with some secret formula so why aren’t we?
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not a pessimist on this topic. I believe we can always be exploring new things that bring us happiness and well being. I believe we each have to define what “rich” means to us and then put in the effort to achieve it. But I also believe our culture puts too much emphasis on finding this mythical ultimate happiness, creating mounds of financial wealth, and, to my first point, finding that one true passion.
Save for some of the creative geniuses and prodigies, many of us don’t have this so-called one true passion hiding in the depths of our unconscious. And if we don’t possess such a creature, we’re going to wind up frustrated and broke trying to find it. We are constantly reinventing ourselves. We are fluid. We get bored easily and we get fascinated easily. We are in a new era of entrepreneurialism and creativity. We live in an age where our vocations aren’t assigned by our parent’s association with the blacksmith. Most of us won’t inherit the family farm. We now put our individual selves first because we don’t have to spend the day hunting meat for our village. We have a lot of freedom and that can be as frightening as it is exhilarating. It’s a new phenomenon to humans and we aren’t quite sure how to navigate it.
When you come across the latest snake-oil salesman hawking his happiness roadmap and passion compass, don’t buy the ticket to ride until your initial impulses have settled down. You are a passionate person and he is a savvy salesperson. He knows how to trigger the emotional responses that mash your finger onto the “Buy It Now” button.
Here’s what we can do:
- Sit with people who truly listen and ask really good questions. Look for a supporter who is more curious about you as a person than he is about trying to squeeze you through his particular program or solution. He doesn’t have the answers, you do. He just happens to have put together what he thinks is good- and maybe it is. But the good ones will help support you in finding those answers within yourself. Seriously, THEY DO NOT HAVE THE ANSWERS- YOU DO!
- Know that there are a lot of genuinely awesome counselors, coaches, therapists, and friends out there who truly want to help you find what you’re looking for. They will help you explore your options, learn more about yourself, work through roadblocks, and support your plan. Shop around and don’t be afraid to return the ones that don’t fit. Tell them what you need in your life, not vice versa.
- Be wary of your inner red flags that pop up when something is surrounded by a lot of hype. Cultivate your instinct. A best-seller might indicate little more than savvy marketing and someone who knows how to target our emotional impulses. Just because everyone’s buying it doesn’t mean it’s actually good. Sleep on it and see if it’s still makes sense in the morning.
- Don’t walk on hot coals to prove your devotion to a guru. The heat on your feet only indicates that you’ve just been burned. Gimmicks and shortcuts are tempting, but once people start getting hurt physically or emotionally, these stunts appear foolish. Stupid human tricks have been peddled for centuries. But living the good life is a process that requires a lifetime of working at it and it shouldn’t land you in the hospital.
- If you are feeling overwhelmed by your many passions and options, start by getting them out of your head. Create a file folder or bankers box for each of your interests and give them a real home in your home. Your thoughts deserve to be shown respect. Once each of your passions or interests is given a place, you are less likely to feel you’ll have to give any one of them up. You can come back to them anytime and add random thoughts to the files as they arise. This helps clear your mind and embrace your possibilities rather than sacrificing 10 things so you can have 1. Who said we only have to have 1?
- Know that your job doesn’t necessarily have to be passion driven. And your passions don’t necessarily have to turn into a vocation. When you’re able to spend time with your interests and your people – when you connect with what’s meaningful – you are more likely to have happiness than if you struggle endlessly to achieve the American myth of “I have to be doing what I love at all times otherwise blah, blah blah.” Who said money and meaning have to be tied together? You get to decide. First discover what’s meaningful to you, then find ways to incorporate it. There are some very happy people doing some very crappy jobs but they go home to some very wonderful people and have very rich meaningful lives. What’s their secret?
- It’s okay to feel passionate about many things, that doesn’t mean you’re non-committal or wishy-washy or flakey or whatever people have called you. It’s okay to not feel particularly passionate about anything, that doesn’t make you aloof or dull or lazy or whatever people have called you. We are in a time when every single action we take is scrutinized for approval or disapproval.
Start with a foundation of knowing that you’re enough just as you are and then build up from there.